I know you have heard this saying from time to time. But, it takes on a whole new meaning when you or a loved one is faced with cancer. The Lemons can seem to be a lot more sour! It is at these times that we need our three F’s ( Faith, Family and Friends).
Faith, to continue to remind us that there is something bigger than our Cancer. Family to be there with us on this challenging journey. Friends that stick by you and your family letting them know that they are not alone. And do not forget a lot of friends are like family so do not be sad if your family does not stand with you!
And for those in the faith, it should go without saying God has your back. So when Cancer comes knocking at your door. Tell IT you are not buying!
Wishing you a Happy and healthy New Year!
Holiday’s while they fun, joyous and filled with love for some it is just the opposite especially those with a cancer diagnoses. Even with family around it can be awkward for the simple reason that a lot of people do not know what to say to someone that has cancer most of the time. And the person that has cancer can still be reeling from just trying to deal day to day with the reality they have this illness!
My advice in this situation would be to just continue to be supportive and loving. And if you can try to learn as much as you can about the type of cancer that they are battling. For you must hear me when I tell you this it is a BATTLE! For that individual that is going through this. Even they do not fully understand why it happened to them and a lot are wishing that they could turn back the clock and never have to hear those terrible words YOU HAVE CANCER!
But I am also here to say that you are not alone, there are resource’s you can reach out to. One that comes to mind is Gilda’s Club which is in most major cities and was founded by Gilda Radner a well known comedian from Saturday Night Live and her husband Gene Wilder whom formed this club to help all cancer patient’s and show them that they are not alone and there is someone that can help them through this journey. Also the hospital that you are being treated at may have a social worker that help direct you to other resources and support groups even within the hospital that will form a protective bubble around you if needed.
Being a cancer survivor myself my first holiday’s were bitter sweet, while I was very happy to be alive, I still was struggling with a little anger about getting the illness in the first place. But now I am just happy to celebrate the holiday’s with my loved one’s and hope that my story will bring hope and ease of mind to those that are on this cancer journey around the holiday’s.
God Bless You All
In all of the outreach events that I do I always try to keep it real, and encouraging. I always have in my talks a reminder that cancer does not care, we as a people get so busy not only with our day to day activities, career’s, family and friends; that we tend to get loss when it comes to our own health care. I remind people that no matter how busy you are, what your economic status is, if you are a wife, mother, sister or friend CANCER DOES NOT CARE! And yes, this seems heartless but true, and in fact it works in favor for this illness. The busier that we are then the less likely we are to take time out to go to the doctor even when we feel something is wrong. If we are taking care of a sick loved one or an a child or aging parent, we actually will feel guilty if we think that we have the right to see about ourselves. Sadly, even some friends and family will even tell you that you are just being selfish; which is one of the most ridiculous comments to say to anyone! In my mind THEY are the one’s being selfish for if they do not understand that for you to continue to take care of that other person or thing then you must make sure you are in as best health condition as you can possibly be. I went to a cancer event when I was asked to speak along with another speaker and she brought up something very powerful for us to think about when it comes to should we feel guilty about taking care of other’s. It was called the ” 5 year plan” and in this plan she just asked a simple question of where do you see yourself at that time? And then she went on to answer the question saying that unless you take care of your health you will NOT be in the picture in 5 years. THINK ABOUT IT
When I go out to community event’s to speak, the one thing that get’s attention is that I am a survivor of the cancer that I talk about. A lot of people want to ask personal question’s about how I felt as I was going through my treatment. I am glad to tell them but I also let them know that every person and their reaction can be different from my experience. It does not seem to matter much, for the bottom line is that they want to be ASSURED, that they can survive this journey!
Next month is very important, not only because it is kicking off a new year but because it is Cervical Cancer Awareness Month. Take some time to learn more about this SNEAKY! Cancer. I say SNEAKY because it can only be detected by going to an OBGYN doctor to get a pap test. Visit our website at http://www.cervicalcancercoalitiontn.org to learn more about me and this organization.
Hi, can we talk a minute about CANCER,? First of all a little something about me; I am a 19 year Cervical Cancer survivor. I started a Non-profit called the Cervical Cancer Coalition of Tennessee. I use my story of survival to hopefully educate,encourage and empower women and their families about H.P.V. and Cervical Cancer. I also have written a book about my journey entitled “The Day My Vigina Tried to Kill me!” I pray that you will find it not only informative but inspirational. Also in future blogs I plan on addressing ALL known cancer’ S that HIT below the belt.